This post has been in my mind for several weeks, but I just have not been able to get all my thoughts together to get it written. My prayer is that you will be encouraged.
Over a month ago one of my best friends I had known since kindergarten ended her life. While we were not as close as we should have been in the last few years, all my school memories include her. I still remember her parent’s phone number that I called so many times to talk with her. I remember all the field trips, playground time, Girl Scouts, band, classes we had together, and even sharing a locker in high school. I recently showed my girls my old yearbooks, and I found notes where she had signed it and even a letter she wrote to me while we were still in college. We were best friends.
After college, life took us in different directions. We would talk occasionally, but not like when we were in school. Before I left Alabama, we had reconnected. She was getting married, and I was able to attend her wedding. She was very happy. We stayed in touch a little better, and then Facebook took over. We connected again there. We could see each others children. Our conversations slipped after we moved to Ohio, and I now wish we had connected better than just a Christmas card.
Life was too busy, and I didn’t reach out like I should have. We “talked” some over Facebook, but nothing more. We are all guilty of “friendship” on Facebook. We come to realize this too late when a tragedy strikes.
I will never forget my hubby calling me to tell me my best friend had ended her life. WHAT?? WHY?? Why had I not reached out more? Why had no one seen? This has really caused me to think. While we have many “friends” on social media, do you really know what is going on in someone’s life. Hubby and I have talked – Facebook is a snapshot in someones life. It is just the happy highlight reel. We often do not talk about what is really going on in our lives. We “like” people’s post and pictures. It makes us happy to see who comments or “likes” what we do. This is all temporary. A temporary high. I started thinking – when is the last time I called someone or texted someone something encouraging or just to see how are they doing. Why am I worried about what others think? Why do we get caught up in other people’s drama?
So, I unplugged from Facebook. It was taking too much time away from what was important. I am finding who I am in Christ so I can be what He wants me to be for my friends. Friends that I call, text, or have meal with. I need to know what is going on with my friends – how I can pray for them or just be someone they can talk to. You may wonder that I may not know what is going on – well, if you need me to know – email or call me. I just recently read that with all the social media to connect people today we are MORE LONELY and feel more isolated! I do not want to feel that way. I love being around people and talking to them. Why do we have a phone if we do not use it to call people or even text them?
I know unplugging from Facebook is not the whole solution, and many people can be on Facebook and not get sucked in like I did. But for me, this is a good place to start.
I do not want another call saying a friend has ended their life due to fact that no one knew what was going on in their life.
I love this verse – Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the LORD you God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you. Deut. 31:6 – God is never going to leave us, He will not, He will not, HE WILL NOT! You have the best friend in Him.