This summer I picked up a book called The Fringe Hours by Jessica Turner. I had heard about it thru social media and decided to pick it up to add to my summer reading list. Little did I know how much God had to show me in this book. I have been telling my friends about it since I had started reading it, and since I have finished it. I would pass the book around, but I have taken so many notes – you need your own copy.
The main focus of this book is about making time for yourself. It has been a theme God has been showing me thru multiple things He has put in my path. I am important. If I don’t see that, then I am no good to anyone. Some of this started with my journey I started this past February (more on that later). I pray He keeps me on it.
We need to find balance. Jessica Turner in the book say, “Balance isn’t easy, but fighting for it is alway worth it.” We get caught up in being busy, and we are proud of it. I feel it has become an idol for so many people. When we get together with other people, we try to out do one another by how busy we are than others. Why? Is this something really to be proud of? I have been guilty of this. No more. Let go of it! God did not call us to be busy.
This book helps you work thru different steps where you can take back control of balance. It will help you find that time for you and let go of what is not important. Give yourself permission to do it. We don’t have to do it all, and we can’t do it all. Why would we? We need to take care of ourselves, mentally, physically, and spiritually. All three of these work together hand in hand. When you have that time to do something for yourself whether it is getting a massage, going for a run, learning a new hobby or revisiting an old one, or just meeting with a friend for coffee you can be better prepared for the rest of what God has you to do. You are important. I do love in the book how she stresses the importance of your quiet time alone with the Lord. All of the other cannot work unless you have that time with our Creator and seek what He wants for you.
You may wonder why she calls it the “fringe hours” Fringe is what we use to make things more beautiful. It that extra something special. We do have those extra times that we can find to make our lives more beautiful. I didn’t think I had, but you know what – I DO! We all do, and you need do seek it out and treasure it. You cannot most likely do it alone. Enlist the help of family and friends so you can. You can do more in community than not.
While in the fringe hours you can get many things accomplished for you, but sometimes you need that time to rest. God wants us to rest. Jesus took time to rest. God commands it.
The parts she works thru in the book are:
- Explore – what do you want to do for yourself? where to find balance? getting rid of the guilt.
- Discover – changing your perspective. how to care for yourself and how to find the time.
- Maximize – steps how to get there. how to ask for help. how to overcome the obstacles(my favorite part of the book) – YOU ARE WORTH IT!
- Living Well – when you can get there – how sweet it is. it is ok to rest.
Everyones fringe is going to look different. There are times when it is hard. Just keep going. Give yourself permissions to enjoy the fringe.
Here is one thing in the book I love –
“Once you have discovered the importance of taking fringe hours to take care of yourself and steward your passions you must also make room for rest. The practice of Sabbath might not be easy at first, but through quiet moments, simple enjoyment creation, and prayer you will discover abundance peace. That peace will center and invigorate you to live a more balance life.”
This is so true, and I am starting to realize this in my own life. God has repeatedly shown me this in the past couple of months. For instance, I needed to get some writing done while the little one was at her reading class and Emily was at band. I usually take this “fringe” time to get blog work or pictures done. One day this past week I decided to take time away from the computer. It was a beautiful day, so after I dropped them off at their locations I found a nice park bench in town and sat and read. I gave myself permission to enjoy my book. I enjoyed it so much, that I did it the next day, and actually finished this book. Doing this gave me new life for that day, a sense of accomplishment, and some rest. It allowed me time to finish this book, so I could share my thoughts with you.
I have read many books in the past, but this books has had such and impact on my life and hopefully will echo into to my friends and family’s lives. I just had to write and share about it. Every woman needs to read this book.
In the end she shares this –
“The real point of making time for you isn’t about what you do during that time as much as it is about how it makes you feel and the ripple effect that has on the rest of your life. Truly is is about living well… everything comes back to three core questions:
do you choose joy
will you celebrate your victories?
are you thankful?
Please pick up this book and take the time to read it. There is so much freedom in these pages. I leave with this verse –
The faithful love of the Lord never ends! His mercies never cease. Great is his faithfulness: his mercies begin afresh each morning. (Lamentations 3:22-23 NLT)